Time for the truth

The truth will set you free.

But our interpretation of truth is often seen as the truth in the spoken form only.

We have had it drilled into us from an early age that we should always tell the truth. "Tell the truth and shame the devil", a well known saying but one that only tells half the story.

What about living the truth; and not just any truth, what about living your own truth?

The worst lie we can tell is not one told to another person but the one we tell to ourselves. This type of lie is detrimental to one's self for the very reason that we know it is a lie and nothing we can do will make it anything else.

When our body is subjected to an un-truth it will weaken our whole system, and anyone who knows about Kinesiology will know this to be so. An un-truth can be an act or the spoken word. It can be something someone tells us or something we tell ourselves, something we do or we have done to us. Saying or doing something that we know is not true to ourselves is in effect worse than having somebody else do it to us, because we are doing something that is not true to ourselves and so we are not being the person that we truly are.

We have all lied to ourselves at some point during our lives. Maybe it was while we were in a relationship, and we realised it wasn't going how we wanted it to or we didn't feel the same way as we used to feel. But so as not to hurt anyone we keep quiet, hoping that our doubt will go away.

We may have lied to ourselves by doing a job we hate for years, hating it every day. But because we have others who rely on us and what this job brings to them we can't leave. We feel we need to be able to provide for them and so we feel resentment for the loved ones who are relying on us. Then on top of our feeling of resentment we feel guilty for feeling this way.

Even by smoking or drinking when we know it can harm us is a form of lying to ourselves. So every time we do this or anything that we know is detrimental to our bodies; our lies will start to damage us on many levels, and by this I mean mind, body and spiritually.

Doing something that we know is detrimental to our inner self no matter what it is, is one of the biggest causes of self sabotage that there is. In a book called 'Power verses Force' by David Hawkins he proves that all negative emotions such as shame, anger, distrust, envy and hate or any feeling which can make us feel negative, will hurt the body in some way.

When we lie to ourselves and we know that we are lying to ourselves we will feel one or more of these negative emotions. Instead of telling others how we feel for fear of hurting them or giving them a reason to be disappointed in us we are in fact damaging our own self.

This in some way makes us feel a little bit better about what we are doing; this self punishment is like our payback for hurting the other person or our betrayal of them, if we can't be truthful to them then we can punish ourselves for acting in this way.

These negative feelings will start lowering our body's defences and allow illness in to our lives. Feelings of guilt and shame and self loathing are a sure way to put the body under incredible strain, and yet we will allow this if it means not hurting someone else.

To stop this isn't easy but I think what we need to do is to start to live our own truth. We should do the things that we want to do but communicate our new preferences to those people around us and let them know that we are still the same person but that life is all about change.

There is always room to change and it is how we bring about this change that counts. If we change in a way that includes those who love us then they won't feel left behind or insecure, and in changing we really can live our own idea of the new self.

This doesn't mean that we can disrespect or walk over people and say "It's the new me just get used to it!" Instead imagine that if what you want to do was done by others around you, would it be a good thing? You will know the answer to that question; it will show up in your feelings.

The real truth is, you are only ever truth and love to begin with.